Where's my Prince?

I was recently asked by a would-be suitor what I was looking for in a relationship. I’m looking for a relationship in a relationship. I want it all. Dinners out, cuddling on the couch, love making, deep conversations and chatting about absolutely nothing. I want everything! What I’m looking for is intimacy in every way. The problem is I’m not getting a well-rounded experience.

I might as well say I’m looking for a leprechaun riding a unicorn. I’m concerned I’m looking for a boyfriend who will always remain imaginary.

It’s not as though my concerns aren’t valid. Shit I’ve had so many dates and relationships fall completely fucking to pieces I’m writing a blog about it. Maybe I just don't get the fairy tale ending. Sometimes I think I’m just not meant to find love. Maybe that’s why I was given the gift of my little girl. Maybe that’s all the love the universe has to offer me.

But I want a husband. A life partner. A best friend. A good lover. A great father.

And I don’t think I’m wrong to want that.

Fellas, here’s a newsflash. Girls like sex too. Seriously. But we only like sex if we’re, ahem, getting what we need. We also need all the mushy stuff y’all hate. Really. We need to be listened to and appreciated. Oh and we know you might not be able to be everything we need all the time. But you can’t fake your way through both aspects and get away with it for very long.

I’ve had relationships that were awesome in the bedroom, but nowhere else. And others that hit all the high notes with one very notable exception. I need a man who can take my breath away in all aspects.

Maybe I am asking for too much. Shit.

But if I wanted to settle, I’d probably be married (or divorced) by now. Why can’t I have it all? Why can’t I strive for the best relationship I can have?

I am an eternal optimist. Even when I get knocked down, I stand back up, brush myself off, throw my shoulders back and keep struttin. Just lately I’m questioning why I haven’t been able to make something happen with someone special.

My favorite animated film ever is Snow White. It has a lot of special meaning for me. But most importantly at this time, is the song “Someday My Prince Will Come.” Just like the beautiful princess, I’m still waiting on that special kiss that will mark the start of the rest of my life.

And so my friends, I leave you with a song in my heart...